Do you struggle with believing in yourself? Do you feel not good enough? Do you look at others and feel they have it all going for them, their life looks wonderful and they seem to ooze confidence and you wish you could be like that?

I’m pretty certain most of us if not all of us, feel this way at some point in our lives. As a child I was introverted and not very confident. I felt like I was on the outside, wishing I could be more confident and comfortable with myself. I mostly saw my faults and believed what other people told me. I was super sensitive and felt very deeply. I still do. I remember having a panic attack before my wedding, as I didn’t want to be the centre of attention, with everyone staring at me as I walked up the aisle.

What I have learnt along my journey is that I come across as confident when I am being myself. Confidence will resonate from you when you are true to you and not trying to be something you think other people want you to be. I have also found that my confidence grows when I do or achieve something I didn’t think I could.

If you want your confidence to grow, you will need to stretch your comfort zone. It is easy to stay where we feel comfortable but unless you push yourself by taking small steps in the direction you wish to go, you will stay stuck and so will your confidence.

The power of the mind is also key. You have a choice and can decide to be more confident and to try new things to stretch your limits. This is a journey and it is like a rollercoaster ride. You will not feel confident all of the time, you will have low points where you let your inner chatter take over resulting in low confidence. And you will have times when something inspires you and you decide to try something new or you succeed at a goal you have set yourself and your confidence soars as your comfort zone expands. Or you just believe that you can do anything you set your mind to.

Resilience either comes from an incredible mindset to never give up or in my experience from going through a lot of hardship, making mistakes and growing. Life is about experience, making mistakes and bad choices, learning and making different choices next time. We all have our own stories and experiences. I have moved countries leaving my home and family and had to start over. I have experienced financial difficulty, having to choose which bills to cover at the end of the month and going into debt. I have suffered from a debilitating illness amongst many other life experiences that have contributed to my story. At the time each experience felt unbearable, like I wouldn’t make it through. I remember crying so hard and feeling like I had nothing left to go on, feeling like I was at the bottom of a deep valley with no idea how to find my way out. But deep inside all of us, there is a spark that will not let you give up no matter how much you may want to. It’s that little voice that says “You can do this, keep going”. Going through difficult times and coming out the other side is what builds resilience. The more you do what you never thought you could and embrace change, the more resilient you become.

No matter what you have been through, don’t become a victim to the experience. Embrace it and let it weave into your story, making you stronger, more confident and more resilient.

What helps to boost your confidence?

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With love,